When You Decide To Have Kids
So, you are now a financially stable gentleman. You have gone on the quest for the Holy Grail –– a.k.a. Mrs. Right –– and you are convinced that you’ve found her. You’ve spent plenty of time with her, and things have gone well. The financial stability is there, and you are ready to take the logical next step: have children. Leave a legacy, let your line go on.
Talk It Through First
There are so many issues that spring up from having children. This is why it’s an excellent idea to sit your significant other down and have a long chat, or series of discussions, about these issues.
Try not to leave anything out. Just for starters, it’s a great idea to talk about exactly how you think children are going to change your lifestyles. Will a change of address be in order? How about a change of schedule? What’s the plan for pre-school and school for the kids? Who are the people in their support network and how can they be counted on to help you? Truth is, it’s next to impossible to do it all on your own, and if both of you are working, the support network becomes even more crucial to depend on.
Previous Surgery, No Problem!
Maybe you want to have kids and one or both of you have previously had a procedure or procedures done to prevent this, meaning a vasectomy or tubal ligation.
Vasectomies are reversible these days, with an over 99% success rate, and the good news is that these days even tubal ligations are now also reversible. Surgeons like Dr. Joseph Hazan at tuboplasty.com have been doing them for quite some time now, with great results.
Keep Your Old Friends:
A lot of people get so obsessed with kids and the so-called “baby fever” during the pregnancy and subsequent birth of their first child, they wind up alienating most or all of their friends in the process! Not only is this completely unnecessary, it’s really not a very good idea at all.
You need your friends for so much, even more so once children come along. Not only do you need them for the odd occasion to let your hair down and have a good time, they are also the secret weapons in your support network. They’ll help you stay sane when you get stressed out –– and you will get stressed. So do your best to keep treating them like the friends they are no matter how excited you may be about the new addition to your family. In the long run, you will appreciate them being there for you.